I’ve used food, fantasy of future relationships – even good
things like fitness or family – to fill my hole-infested heart. That is a good
term. Because the more I try to fill my heart with cheap, substitutes for
Christ - the more holes start appearing elsewhere. It’s as though I’m patching
up one hole, just to have another one rip open in another spot because the
whole structure of my heart isn’t in good shape.
Now don’t go feeling bad for me, for dealing with emptiness
in my heart. Because the good news is that’s exactly why Jesus died. He died
and rose again to be our bread of life, our living water, our one and only
satisfaction. It’s just taking me some time to actually allow that truth to permeate
into all areas of my life.
Earlier this week, one of my housemates commented that I and another young woman have been lamenting over our lack of husband potentials. At first, I was aghast. How dare she say that about me! How dare she lump me in with the other woman, who I even notice talks a lot about her no-man-status. But at second glace, I recognized my housemate was right. Why couldn’t I see that in myself? How had I let my self-talk become so destructive?
Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount gives an explanation. I couldn’t see
my own dysfunction of emotions and thinking because of the giant block in front
of my face. Jesus refers to this block as a plank in one’s eye that needs to be
dealt with, especially before wanting to help someone else. My heart is to bring
other women to emotional wholeness in their relationship with God. So, what am
I supposed to do to fix my own heart first?
In his commentary on the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew Henry
puts it this way:
It is as strange that a man can be in a sinful, miserable condition, and not be aware of it, as that a man should have a beam in his eye, and not consider it; but the god of this world blinds their minds. Here is a good rule for reprovers; first reform thyself.
It is as strange that a man can be in a sinful, miserable condition, and not be aware of it, as that a man should have a beam in his eye, and not consider it; but the god of this world blinds their minds. Here is a good rule for reprovers; first reform thyself.
Another piece of good news: I don’t need to try and fix or
reform my heart on my own. Jesus wants in on the process. I realized that a big
part of my reformation must come at the foot of the cross, where I lay down those
things I’ve used as substitutions for fulfillment. I must choose to surrender –
not because of the hope of receiving back what I’ve given up. (Don’t get me
wrong, it’d be nice to surrender my dreams of a family and then get one in the
next few years.) But instead, I choose to surrender because in the end Jesus is
my all-in-all. The dreams and desires are really just a glimmer of what Christ
has to offer.
These less-than-worthy alternatives, pale in comparison to
Christ. David writes in Psalm 16:11 that in God’s presence there is “fullness
of joy.” And the same “completeness” is promised by Christ himself in John
15:11. Plain and simply, the only true hole-filler comes in the form of a first
century Jewish carpenter.
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You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me
with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand. Psalm
16:11
I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that
your joy may be complete. John 15:11
"Less-than-worthy alternatives"...brilliant line1 A fantastic reminder that our idols are THAT, indeed. I love those verses at the end too...very Piper-ish ;)
ReplyDeleteThis bit is fantastic..."Because the more I try to fill my heart with cheap, substitutes for Christ - the more holes start appearing elsewhere. It’s as though I’m patching up one hole, just to have another one rip open in another spot because the whole structure of my heart isn’t in good shape."
Wow...so true! It's a rough, but beautiful calling, Goetze; this whole idea of helping other women find wholeness, but having to first come face to face with (and deal with!) our OWN brokenness. Definitely humbling...but amazing (and worth it!) nonetheless :)
You're beautiful, Goetze. I'm glad I found time to read this today. I need more... :)
Thank you for these honouring words!
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chicka, love this! it's so freaking true. I love how God works with us to become the creation we were meant to be -> and awesome revelations come from that! love you
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